For a long time I thought I wanted to be a counselor.
I can show you the pamphlets Bethel Seminary is still sending me about their Marriage and Family Therapy program.
Speaking of, if you, or someone you know, works in the Marriage and Family Therapy Program admissions office at Bethel, tell them their school looks lovely, but I’m neck deep in a different career path.
I realized I didn’t want to be a counselor when I discovered I’d be terrible at it.
It was a big moment for me.
But I love counselors. They’re the best.
I recently connected with this author / counselor, Debra Fileta.
And by connected, I mean I stalked her.
Since, next to Tim Tebow, Debra is one of the people I follow the most on ye’ ol’ Internet I really wanted to do it. I also love reading and I’d never reviewed, but I assumed I’d like that too … plus I secretly want her to be my Yoda to one Luke Skywalker.
It also was a book about dating.
Who doesn’t love to talk about dating?!
Little did I know I’d be blindsided by her advice to get to know myself.
Just kidding – that was my favorite part.
I kind of wrote about this in a blog a few weeks ago, but this quote stuck out to me from Debra’s book:
Your story has far more to do with finding God’s unique calling and purpose for your life than it does with finding the love of your life.
I guess I need to be reminded of this again and again:
God’s plan for me is massively bigger then my relationship status.
Once your life becomes less about whether or not you’re married, and more about God’s plan for you, thats when you can participate in healthy dating relationships. Someone whose happiness, fulfillment, and life purpose all depends on a broken and earthly relationship, won’t ever get what they really need.
But someone who is basing their worth and value on their relationship with Jesus Christ?
That’s the kind of person you want to be, and the kind of person you want to date.
Debra brought the heat.
I loved Debra’s book, and if you’re dating or thinking about dating, you’d probably like it too. You can order it on Amazon or at her website: