At this point it feels like I’ve dated every available guy at my church.
I’m pretty sure that’s not accurate, but since my supposed “Pastor” yelled, “run for your lives” or something similar to two incredibly attractive young men on Sunday, that I had not yet met, I’m pretty sure my feeling isn’t totally inaccurate.
Anyway, after getting kicked off of match.com and finding out that eharmony is literally the dumbest dating website in the world (getting matched with someone who enjoys “live action role play” was a final straw) I thought my dating life had died a quick, yet incredibly painful death.
Yet, I noticed one of my girlfriends was going out on dates all the time.
Yes, she’s attractive. Yes, she’s confident. Yes, she’s gregarious. But even with all of those qualities she was going on an exorbitant amount of dates.
Like almost one a day.
With different people.
I wanted to know what she was doing and how she was doing it.
And then I heard that fated word:
I downloaded it, tried it for 10 minutes, and immediately felt like a terrible human being.
So I deleted it. Kind of.
Fast-forward 2 months later to a semi-theological discussion with friends, both for and against.
Basically the argument centered around “is it shallow?”
Heck yeah it is!
You’re making a two second judgment on a person, solely based on their looks.
So being the hypocrite that I am, I joined Tinder today.
This is honestly like throwing up the middle finger to Joshua Harris.
Not only am I not kissing dating goodbye, I’m giving it the Miley Cyrus version of a hello.
It just feels like all kinds of wrong.
However, since my last stint with eharmony resulted in getting matched with Mr. Live-Action-Role-Play I’ve come to terms with the fact that I just might need to be physically attracted to someone in order to date them . . .
And yet, I feel incredibly guilty about it.
I remember when I was in college, someone said that you should go out with a guy, even if you weren’t attracted to them, to give them confidence to ask more women out. I never really got that, but as a recovering legalist I did this a few times and then finally thought – wait, this seems dumb. Not only am I leading them on, but I’m also making a highly indebted college student pay for my meal.
Just all kinds of stupid.
So anyway, Tinder.
Is it wrong? Maybe.
But if it’s wrong, I don’t want to be right.